Social media has been popularly referred to as both a blessing and a curse and sometimes even blamed for one vice or the other among millennials and one of the most common of such instances is the blame of social media for a decline in relationships. The still relevant question to ask is “is social media killing relationships?” and to answer that we will be reviewing some points with hope that at the end it will answer the question.
What about meeting people?
We cannot deny that social media has made it easier to meet people that it was a few years ago, now we are no longer limited to only making friends within or geographical circle, you could now easily make friends online and transform that to a real life one. With this, it is easy to wonder why anyone will think it is a bad thing. The answer to that is related to the paradox of choice. The more to choose from, the harder it gets and then the less serious people take their choices. Now people easily let go of their friendships because everyone seems easily replaceable and as a result they are hardly work at fixing things.
Cheating via social media.
This one is painfully getting too familiar lately with romantic relationships and marriages alike breaking up over a fling that had started via social media which is undeniably a downside effect of social media. Some time ago people had to plan secret meetings and put in more effort into being discreet about it but a with as little as a few clicks a sex chat can ensue even before a real life meeting.
Pressure to measure up to the #goals standards
Yes, it is cute to post about each other and let each other and the world know how special the other person is, but sometimes this act creates an unreal expectation of how relationships are supposed to be and result in a feeling of lack of satisfaction from a relationship that would be otherwise perfect.
It is a huge distraction
Yes! Twitter, Facebook, LinkedIn and the rest are cool but is there a chance they are distracting you from actually spending quality time with each other? Nowadays, it’s easier to see people on their phone half the time they are together, sending more time posting about hanging out than actually paying each other any attention and in a little time one person starts to feel like less of a priority.
Lack of privacy
Having fall-outs is common and even before social media but people often bounce back from quarrels, however when these quarrels are taken online and posted about on social media, it becomes open to the world and people comment opinions about what happened. It becomes harder to take back words said and decisions that should have been talked about in privacy becomes a public affair. Relationships with people thrive on being able to confide with each other but social media might be taking away that privacy in relationships making everyone guarded about how they act with others.
At the end of the day, social media may be doing more harm than good to relationships when poorly regulated and this is further justified by statistics of broken relationships and fall-outs we so often hear about on social media. The answer to this of course is not to go cold turkey but honesty, respect each other’s space and spend more time offline actually being together.